Strategies to Ease the Day: Turn a task into an experience.

Some amount of stress in life is inevitable. We all go through seasons of life where our day-to-day experience is very difficult. The stress of parenting young children (or school-age kids…or teenagers…), caring for an ill parent, coping with a loss, dealing with our own health issues, or having an overloaded schedule are some examples of chronic stressors. When we are under chronic stress we often go into survival mode, which typically translates to less
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Strategies to Ease the Day

In this series of posts, I describe simple strategies to build some self-care into your routine, ease your day, and resource yourself. The goal here is to make small changes to pull you out of high-stress, fight-or-flight, survival mode which causes wear-and tear on your body, makes you feel frantic and exhausted, and leaves you feeling pretty crispy. Today’s strategy is comes in two parts. The first part is geared towards mothers with young kids,
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The Felt-Sense Prayer

I first heard this poem while listening to a podcast by psychologist and mindfulness teacher Tara Brach (who is awesome).  The poem describes the many ways in which we attempt to avoid all sorts of physical and emotional pain. It also highlights how recognizing pain and accepting it can increase self-knowledge and improve self-care. I am the pain in your head, the knot in your stomach, the unspoken grief in your smile. I am your high blood sugar,
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A key to surviving new motherhood: Learning to surrender

“It’s all about surrender,” I once told my friend and colleague when discussing how I was coping with my new role as a mother. “I can’t get anything done, ever. But on the days where I am so tired that I don’t even try, those are days that tend to be better.” “You should write that down”, she said. So I did. SURRENDER, on a post-it note on my nightstand. It was a little bizarre;
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